It’s been a while since I posted something to this space.
Perhaps it’s because I’m lazy.
Or because I’m not consistent, I don’t follow through and I can’t get things done!
Or maybe it’s simply because my priorities needed to shift for a while in order to fulfil a long-held vision of becoming a Trainer with Inner Matrix Systems, and supporting people to create the life they really want.
In any case…the reasons for my absence online aren’t really that important.
What is important is that like me, you have a choice about how you spend your time, where you place your focus, and how you direct your emotional energy.
I’ve become acutely aware these last few years that it’s essential for me to spend my time on things that inspire me, move me, and support me to become a better version of myself as time passes.
In the current climate of instant gratification, the 24/7 “news” cycle, and unlimited access to a vast expanse of media, making this choice isn’t always easy. It can be challenging to disengage from the drama of the day, the crisis at work, or the latest scandal on social media…but in the end, where I spend my time and where I place my focus is a choice.
And this choice determines my experience in life, no matter what might be happening in the world outside of myself.
Many of us say that certain things are important to us–family, spending time in nature, having adventures, taking walks in the park, experiencing a sense of joy, peace or wonder, sharing a moment of connection with another human being.
But our choices often reflect different priorities.
We listen to the news or doom scroll social media constantly. We gossip and complain about things we cannot change. We judge–ourselves, each other and the world.
The more time we spend NOT doing the things we say are important to us, the better we get at the things we say we don’t want. We get better at scrolling the Facebook feed, getting lost for hours in other people’s perceptions of the world, we call the gossipy friend and complain, and complain, and complain.
We get really good at justifying “just one more” glass of wine, episode on Netflix, scoop of ice cream, thingamajig on Amazon…anything to take the edge off our uncomfortable feelings.
Are these the things that are really important to you?
If your answer is a hard “no”, make a choice right now to take some small action toward doing something that is significant to you:
- If calm is important, walk away from the computer (yes, now!), and find a spot to sit and simply observe.
- If gratitude is important, turn off the TV, get off social media and focus on the simple places in your life you appreciate–a warm shower, clean sheets, a crispy apple, music you love. Take a walk and appreciate your surroundings.
- If being of service and care are important, reach out to someone who needs support and offer care with no expectation of being thanked or praised.
- If connection is important, call a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while and genuinely ask how they are. Listen fully.
- If peace is important, close your eyes and focus on nothing other than your breath for 5-10 minutes.
Small, uncomfortable choices over time lead to the creation of a new life. What we invest in today pays off tomorrow. As I design what I want my life to look like 5 – 10 years from now, I’m doing my best to invest my time in the “now” things that lead to making that life a reality. It can be challenging…but oh so worth it!
If you’re in a place of physical or emotional pain, or you just know there’s more to life than where you are now, I’d love to offer you a complimentary 1:1 Personal Mastery session with me. Email me at: firstname.lastname@example.org and we’ll schedule a chat to see if we’re a fit for working together.